Tuesday, January 29, 2013

New Year, new decisions

We said something, my husband and I. We said something with 100% resolve to do what we said. We’ve never said it for real before. We’ve said that we “intend to “or we “would like to”, or “someday.”  But this time we have decided that within a year, we are definitely, 100% going to move to Norway.

One of the hardest things I’m going to have to do is tell my family that we are doing it and that our mind is made up. I know there is going to be a lot of trepidation, anxiety, etc. I am going to have to work out a new schedule with my eldest son’s dad which could either go really well (because he’ll be thrilled that I’m leaving the country), or could go totally horrible meaning more money, more lawyers, and so on. I am just letting go and deciding that I will confront and deal with whatever may come in terms of fallout and hard feelings.I believe it will ultimately be worth it.

When the two of us married in Norway, it was understood that we would live in the U.S. since I share joint custody with my ex-husband and we had promised to be great co-parents together, meaning we would stick close by until he went to college or was almost done with High School sort of thing. Plus, he has a little half-brother he’s very close to. Surely it would not be nice to split them apart. Well, that did not quite pan out, did it?

We have always wanted to live close to my husband’s parents and give our son, who is half Norwegian, the experience of living in his father’s culture, knowing his grandparents really well, learning Norwegian, and enjoying the benefits of growing up in a society where he can be a little freer. We too, can benefit from not worrying about how we are going to pay for him to go to college. I can do music, start a label, or do something really creative and try to make a go of it without having to worry about not having health insurance. We will have more time off, which will give me plenty of time to come back here and help out or just visit. Yep, it’s what we have for sure decided, and I’m telling you right now that I can’t wait!

There is a ton to think about and a lot that will need to be done and get in order. But, I plan to start now. 


  1. WOW... So glad you popped by my blog & your good advice.. (leaning my way.. lol) Hope everything works out for you.. & if you need a sounding board.. been there done that. Are you a member of Norsk Ting on Facebook? I look forward to getting to know you. Best wishes, Tressa

  2. What is Norsk Ting? I have been enjoying your blog and will probably ask you for some tips soon as we begin the process!!